Dear younger, pre-children, pre-pregnancy, still infertile me,
I know Mother’s Day is hard. It seems like everyone else either has kids or is pregnant, when that’s all you want. I know. I get it. I was there, remember?

I just have a bit of advice…A few things I want you to do for me.

Be thankful for Mom. After your husband, she is your best friend. She is here with you now. She is behind you still. She is always on your side, and always here for you. Don’t take away the joy of Mother’s Day from her, just because of your longing. Yes, it’s a God-given longing, but you’re so concerned with when you’ll be able to be a mother that you’re not truly honoring your mother on her day. So, please, as hard as it is, lavish Mom on her special day, and try not to let it be about you.

Cherish the time with Hubby. Yes, you want to make babies with this man, but make the most of your time with him, when it’s just the two of you. One day, you’ll have a house-full of kids; noise, tears, messes and joys. But for now, when it’s just the two of you, enjoy the alone time. Get to know each other better. Find out each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Find out how you will parent together. Believe me, you don’t want learn everything on the fly. It’s better to go in prepared.

Get into good habits now. Make prayer and Bible study a habit. Not like scheduled in, but a part of life. Like breathing or eating. It will be one that you need more than any other. You’re going to want to have chores planned out, responsibilities divvied up. Start saving money and find every way you can live frugally now. Stop eating at McDonald’s every other day. You’re going to want menus planned out, meals to fall back on. Work on keeping the house in order. It won’t get easier to do so with kids; it will get crazy-tough! So just get working on things now.

I think that’s it. Those three things will make a world of difference for you, your spiritual life, and your relationships with your parents, your husband, and your children.

Please know I say this all with love. I know you won’t listen to me, but…at least you can’t say you weren’t warned.

A Note of Advice to a Younger Me

JennAbout Jenn: I’m a Christian wife to an amazing man (since 1998) and a stay-at-home-teaching mom to four special & incredible boys (born in 2004, 2005, 2007, & 2009). I’m messy and cluttered, but working on that (really, I am!). I’m a discouraged perfectionist and a classic procrastinator who probably has both ADD & Autism, so I tend to jump from topic to topic (and activity to activity) without notice. My Love Languages are Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. I’m an INFP who enjoys friends but loves to be alone. I love getting and giving hugs, and encouragement is a Spiritual gift of mine that can too-easily be turned into the weapon of discouragement, if I’m not careful. I enjoy writing, singing, words, drawing, photography, digital creations, and reading. Oh, and pizza, tacos, and steak. Now I’m hungry. That reminds me; I eat gluten free and try to eat organic and avoid white sugar and GMOs as much as possible.  Find me on Facebook (Writer/Editor page) (Fan page), Twitter, Pinterest, or Instagram.

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