Dear younger, pre-children, pre-pregnancy, still infertile me,
I know Mother’s Day is hard. It seems like everyone else either has kids or is pregnant, when that’s all you want. I know. I get it. I was there, remember?
I just have a bit of advice…A few things I want you to do for me.
Be thankful for Mom. After your husband, she is your best friend. She is here with you now. She is behind you still. She is always on your side, and always here for you. Don’t take away the joy of Mother’s Day from her, just because of your longing. Yes, it’s a God-given longing, but you’re so concerned with when you’ll be able to be a mother that you’re not truly honoring your mother on her day. So, please, as hard as it is, lavish Mom on her special day, and try not to let it be about you.
Cherish the time with Hubby. Yes, you want to make babies with this man, but make the most of your time with him, when it’s just the two of you. One day, you’ll have a house-full of kids; noise, tears, messes and joys. But for now, when it’s just the two of you, enjoy the alone time. Get to know each other better. Find out each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Find out how you will parent together. Believe me, you don’t want learn everything on the fly. It’s better to go in prepared.
Get into good habits now. Make prayer and Bible study a habit. Not like scheduled in, but a part of life. Like breathing or eating. It will be one that you need more than any other. You’re going to want to have chores planned out, responsibilities divvied up. Start saving money and find every way you can live frugally now. Stop eating at McDonald’s every other day. You’re going to want menus planned out, meals to fall back on. Work on keeping the house in order. It won’t get easier to do so with kids; it will get crazy-tough! So just get working on things now.
I think that’s it. Those three things will make a world of difference for you, your spiritual life, and your relationships with your parents, your husband, and your children.
Please know I say this all with love. I know you won’t listen to me, but…at least you can’t say you weren’t warned.