Thanks so much for joining us for our Encouragement for Imperfect Wives Series! We hope you’ll be blessed, encouraged, challenged and comforted all at once. Please let us know if you need prayer – we’d love to pray for you!
1. Serve each other.
If you are anything like us, our lives can be pretty crazy busy at times. We have 8 children who usually need attention in one way or another. It is really easy for me as a mom to get so caught up in caring for them and to put the needs of my husband last. Make a conscious effort to put your husband first! The kids can wait a few minutes for their breakfast while you make a quick cup of coffee for your man. In fact, it is a good thing for the kids to see you putting Daddy first! Not only is a happy marriage a blessing for you – it is an example for your children as they grow up and pursue their own spouses. “For brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.” Galations 5:12
2. Make time for each other.
This is a hard one for us. There always seems to be something going on and before we realize it, we haven’t been out on a date or even spent any time alone together for weeks. We usually have to plan in advance if we want to be able to have a date. It doesn’t have to be fancy! This Christmas Mark and I got to slip away and go for a walk since the weather was particularly warm. We walked down the road to the ice cream shop for a cone. It was a crazy thing to do on Christmas day, but it was memorable and a lot of fun. Do something together that you both enjoy.
3. Choose your battles wisely.
Mark and I had been over a myriad of doctrine and preferences before we got married. We came from somewhat different backgrounds and anticipated that we may have some different ideas about things. I was a bit surprised when we were first married that it was nothing ‘big’ like that where we had the hardest time adjusting to marriage. You know what it was? It was just the fact that I was a night owl and his work schedule meant he needed to go to bed early. Sounds like not that big a deal, right? For me, it was. Mark was doing great just to stay away long enough to have devotions after supper and in my opinion the day was yet young! I had to learn to get up earlier so that I would also be tired at a more reasonable hour in the evening.
4. Don’t keep anything from each other.
If your husband is your best friend, he needs to be the one you share your secrets with! Don’t go behind each other’s back in any circumstance …unless it is for gift purposes! 🙂
5. Never speak evil of your spouse to others.
I realize there is a time and place for council. Complaining about your husband to others only encourages your own discontent! Have you prayed about it? Do you need to evaluate your own heart and your reaction to what is going on? Have you mentioned it to your spouse? Hashing it out with your friends is merely gossip and is harmful to your husband’s reputation.
6. Give him a goodbye to remember!
Make sure you give your husband your full attention for a few seconds before he leaves for work. Let him know that you appreciate his hard work in supporting your family and look forward to his return. Give him something to smile about when he thinks of you!